You might’ve noticed by now that my recent posts have been all about my pregnancy.
I can’t help it- it is one of the most incredible times in a woman’s life .. And having a girlfriend to share this journey with makes it even more exciting!
Meet my friend, Stephanie Zubiri-Crespi, She is a Wife, Mom, Traveler, TV Host and Lifestyle Blogger, among the many other things she has on her plate. I actually wrote about her recent blog launch a few months back.
We’ve been friends for as long as I can remember.. We used to go on group dancing dates for 80’s night every Friday in Alabang! Haha ..This girl can dance!
But time just zoomed right past us and now.. we’re both expecting!
We didn’t even realize that both our sons would have similiar names. Maxen for my little one, and Maximilian for hers. Such strong, unique and masculine choices don’t you think? I’m absolutely in love!
Since this is her second time around, I asked her to share 5 most useful tips and here they are:
1.The best advice I ever got was to think of my pregnancy as training for the most difficult marathon of my life. Making a human being is an enormous feat and labor and delivery one of the most challenging things in a woman’s life. I see it as the time to be my fittest and healthiest ever! Keep active! Exercise! No need to dial back too much from your regular regimen. Just make sure you have your all clear from your doctor. Also eat healthier than usual – you’re not just feeding yourself but your baby too. However do let yourself indulge once in awhile, after all you deserve it!
2. New moms are bombarded with advice- solicited and unsolicited and often times conflicting! Stay informed, read and absorb with an open mind then ultimately go with your gut feeling. Also discuss with the baby’s father because it is his child too and your decisions and actions affect his baby as well. Trust your instincts and see what works best. Each woman, each pregnancy, each baby, each family is different – there is no one size fits all solution or grand plan. The most important thing is not to stress because the baby feels it and to stay as positive and happy as possible.
3. At some point you’re going to have to give in and give up your stilettos 🙁 Invest in a comfy pair of neutral or dressy wedges or flats for dress up moments. Not so much because it’s dangerous that you might fall (because if you’re a seasoned high heel wearer like me- that’s not the case!) but your back will suffer. Your lower back will suffer damage even after the pregnancy. Your center of balance just isn’t the same anymore! It’s not worth it… Especially in the last stretch – sadly function champions over fashion. But there are so many nice options in the market you will definitely find a way to make it work!
4. Pregnancy is not an excuse to let go or feel frumpy! When you’re feeling extra blah, make that extra effort to look good! A swipe of lipstick, a blowdry, a pretty dress… It’ll help boost your morale! Treat yourself to some pamper time- a prenatal massage, a foot scrub… Anything that makes you feel extra special! Think of your pregnancy not as an ordeal but as a celebration of how amazing you are and what your body can do!
5. Find time to reflect and reconcile with all your emotions. It’s a crazy hormonally charged journey and what no one told me was that in the beginning motherhood is riddled with guilt. You’re guilty if you do and guilty if you don’t. You’ll have lots of big choices and decisions to make – don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for them! You do the best you can and do what works best for you. I truly believe in “happy mommy, happy baby” rather than the other way around. These little beings are sensitive to our emotions and will feel when you are stressed or unhappy. So don’t feel guilty if you want to go back to work, escape for dinner with your girlfriends or go on a movie date night with your hubby, a happy fulfilled mother is such a blessing to any child.”
Steph is actually just waiting to pop any moment now.. While I have about 10 more weeks to go. So near, yet so far. Haha! But nevertheless, I am trying to make the most out of every single day.
We were both actually just talking about how different it is being pregnant in your 20’s and 30’s- you know in terms of perky breasts and back aches! Haha (The struggle is real!!)
Luckily, we’re having it quite easy – but the challenge ahead is being able to bounce back into our pre-pregnancy weight! (Well more for me i think! Haha)
So do wish us luck! 🙂
But before I go, sharing with you my top 5 tips as well..
1. I know it can take a little more of your time but don’t skip on the anti-stretchmark oils and lotion– they are so worth it! Apply twice a day, after every bath.
2. If you don’t wanna splurge on a new wardrobe, stick to your usual jersey dresses and stretchy skirts– they make your baby bump look extra flattering.
3. Don’t waste your time being idle (unless Doctor prescribed) .. Take walks, move around and stretch. With all that eating, you need to burn a few calories too.
4. Sleep with cloth bras ( no padding & underwire) throughout the last two trimesters -they really help in keeping your breasts in its proper form, especially with the sudden upsize & weight.
5. Read, read and read some more. There are awesome books that teach proper breathing techniques, and even show graphic details on child birth. Search for videos on youtube too- It’s better to see everything rather than get freaked out in the end. It helps to be prepared. 🙂 Worked for me!
Photography: Louie Arcilla
On Mikaela: Antica Sartoria by Due Porte
On Stephanie: BCBG
Visit her site on www.stephaniezubiri.com